Why am I shy?

Most of us who are (or were) shy usually face one of three things that contribute a lot or are responsible for why we are shy:

• Self image issues (low self-esteem)
• Over sensitive about ourselves (social fear)
• Stereotypes (a delusion we believe)

SELF ESTEEM

As we grow up--especially during middle (Jr) and high school--we tend to believe we don't have the qualities others who are "popular" would find us interesting or worthy to hang-out. If you feel or believe this is true with you, did you know you're making the decision for others? Are you qualified to make their decisions for them? Wouldn't it tick you off if someone else made your decisions for you? I know I'd be pretty peeved if someone else did!

Your perception of what others think of you can be, and in a lot of cases with everybody, is usually wrong. How can we possibly know what other's are thinking? NEVER assume someone doesn't like you! THINGS ARE NOT AS THEY APPEAR. For that matter...

What other people think of you is none of your business!

You have to find a way to push past this negative thinking and just KNOW you're worthy of having around. Know it, believe it and live it. Just do it.

SOCIAL FEAR (of what we say and do)

It's important to realize that as humans, we will do and say things that will be embarrassing at times, but know that is an exception. It doesn't happen very often at all.

So, knowing you're only human and are subject to failure as everyone else is, you can test, experiment and otherwise live life without the fear of failure. Everyone fails at times. Everyone is an idiot at times. Everyone makes a fool of themselves at times.

Just rest in the fact that you're just like them...and they're just like you. 

Life is to be appreciated and experienced, not to be squelched  and limited by un-substantiated fears.

SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY

Psychology is actually sometimes right and when it comes to "self-fulling prophecy," it's right on the money. A self-fulfilling prophecy, summed up, is when a person says something is true (even though it may not be true) and because they think and believe it, it must be true. WRONG!

To quote Henry Ford once again, he said:

If you think you can do something...or you think you can't do something...either way you're right.

It's all up to you. You can either be shy or not be shy. It's just a matter of deciding. Yes, it's that simple...and to make this excuse and that excuse is only to tell yourself that you "Can't," and at that point both Henry Ford and "you are right." You can't.

Just because you believe something doesn't mean it's true.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE SHY.